Everyone grieves in own their time and in their own way
Grief is associated with feelings of sadness, regret, guilt and anger. It can be an extremely confusing time in your life. While some people quickly learn to cope with grief and resume their normal routines in time, others continue to grieve for years and struggle to find relief. Some people grieve openly, while others prefer to keep their emotions hidden. Whichever scenario applies to you, there is no right or wrong way to feel and deal with your loss.
One of the greatest challenges associated with grieving the loss of a loved one, is adjusting to the new reality of living in their absence. This usually involves developing a new routine, envisioning a new future, or re-discovering your sense of self.
Due to its personal nature, grief is often an unspoken and uncomfortable topic to discuss among family and friends. For this reason, counselling is highly advantageous because it means that you don’t have to go on the journey alone.
A temporary defense mechanism, denial is often the earliest stage of grief and involves feelings that “this can’t possibly be happening to me.”
This stage might involve seeking a source to blame or becoming angry with the world.
During this stage, people might try to find ways to buy themselves more time, such as bargaining with God to attempt to become a better person in exchange for changing circumstances.
As people begin to accept the loss, an overwhelming sense of depression, sadness, or hopelessness may kick in.
At this stage, the loss is accepted and some peace is reached.
Psychologist J. W. Worden created a stage-based model for coping with the death of a loved one. He called his model the Four Tasks of Mourning:
Be the person you want to be by moving on from past the and make the changes you want to see in your life.
Open up about your thoughts and emotions in a supportive environment without judgement.
Form better relationships and gain the skills and confidence to be able to communicate your emotions.