You don’t have to feel that way!
Self-esteem is an integral part of your psychological wellbeing and influences the way you think, feel and behave. If your self-esteem is low, you might be experiencing depression, anxiety, co-dependency, inadequacy, self-sabotaging behaviour, dysfunctional relationships and and/or various other behaviours. One of the most common features of low self-esteem is negative self-talk, which often arises as the result of relating yourself to others and criticising your lack of achievements in comparison. But these negative messages are rarely true.
When someone has a high self-esteem, it means that they believe in themselves as loveable, successful and worthy person. Do you want to feel competent, autonomous and positive about the way you look and behave? Of course you do! Having a healthy high esteem leads to increased positive feelings, more satisfying relationships, and more successful experiences – resulting in an overall positive sense of wellbeing.
Sometimes you just need a little assistance via therapy to re-train your thought patterns, which is where I come in!
Self-esteem is learned in childhood and certain past experiences may interfere with its development, such as experiencing criticism or abuse from parents and caretakers, missing out on life experiences that would otherwise create a sense of purpose, receiving no positive reinforcement or recognition for achievements, or being stigmatised for a particular appearance, behaviour, ethnicity etc.
As an adult, even those with a well-developed self-esteem can be challenged by sudden life changes that might be perceived as failings, such as losing a job, ending a romantic relationship or having children with emotional or physical issues. Any of these events might cause you to question your worth or value. Counselling can help put these events into perspective and make you a stronger person as a result.
Reflect upon how and why you view yourself and the world negatively, in a non-judgemental space.
Establish realistic and achievable goals and treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer others.
Develop strategies for managing your inner-critic and effectively deal with its destructive nature.